twloha:

"Devote yourself to your community around you & devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose & meaning." - Mitch Albom
(Created by Emily Poe-Crawford; image via Pinterest)

My favorite nonprofit posted work by a friend! Mind blown.

twloha:

"Devote yourself to your community around you & devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose & meaning." - Mitch Albom

(Created by Emily Poe-Crawford; image via Pinterest)

My favorite nonprofit posted work by a friend! Mind blown.

Okay, but Chris Evans and Aubrey Plaza and indie music and rom com? Ugh. I will watch this so fast.

(via poehlergeistfey)

I have met some of the most amazing women I have ever known through the game industry. Larger-than-life, funny, warm, sweet, razor-sharp, overeducated women, the kind who laugh too loudly in quiet rooms. It’s been a long time since I’ve heard most of them laugh. One of them IMed me today about how she was leaving the industry and she couldn’t handle the idea of disappointing me but she just couldn’t take it any more, and I told her it was okay, it’s fine, self-care is so important, because it is.

The truth is that after our conversation ended, I put my head in my hands and cried.

I could tell you stories about the voices we’ve lost, the women we’ve scarred, the people we’ve left behind. I want to, but I’m not sure you’d get it. I tweeted earlier today, We should have a war memorial for all of the women we have lost to this. We should lay flowers and grieve and see our reflections in stone. And I meant it. I wish there were a way to honor the people our industry has wronged, and a way to visualize the enormity of what we have lost because of it— some representation of the gap between what games are and what they can be, and the pieces of the bridge between that have fallen away.

"Elizabeth Sampat writes on women in the games industry, spinning off Zoe Quinn’s situation. Read the whole thing. It’s a shotgun blast of a piece. The last line of the whole thing is my takeaway from the last few weeks.” (via actorswithactionfigures)

Read it, all of it.

(via actorswithactionfigures)

rendzina:

over coffee with my mom this morning: “sometimes we hesitate to invite people into our life because we feel like our space isn’t good enough yet. things are a little messy, or our place settings don’t match, or our situation isn’t quite what we want it to be. don’t let that stop you. invite people in anyway.”

(via beaucoupsourire)

Don’t become brokenhearted. Don’t quit. If you believe you can do it, you can do it. It’s so easy to be hurt. It’s so easy to quit. Don’t quit. Do it again. And then again. Don’t stop.

On Ferguson and speaking up

I have waited to post about what is going on in Ferguson, Missouri. If you’ve been living under a rock or blissfully unaware of this whole situation, a good place to start is here

I thought adding my voice to the noise could distract from those who are saying valuable things, those who are on the ground there, those who have facts about what is going on there. My thinking now is that approach is wrong. To be silent in the face of injustice and pain is not a good thing, and there is plenty of both in Ferguson. I speak from a place of ridiculous privilege. Though I am a woman, I am what I think most would consider middle class and white. I do not know this parent’s worry. I have been pulled over once by a police officer in my city, and, though I was obviously nervous and erratic, he did not ever question whether I was a threat; he wrote me a deserved speeding ticket and let me continue home. Home to my family, home to my friends, home to live my life. These experiences are luxuries many do not enjoy, and that is not okay with me. 

Before I go any further, something needs to be said. I am very thankful for the existence of police. I have personally called the local police here once in my life, and that experience was very positive. I know several police officers, and all are very upstanding, lovely men of integrity and character. The problem here is not “the police” at large, I do not think. (Though, in this case, the Ferguson police department and their attitude and over-militarification have made this situation so much worse.)

The issue is so much bigger and more complex, and yet I think it boils down to something very simple: the belief that some people are worth more than others, that there is a hierarchy of those “better” than or “less important” than, that we fall on a spectrum. We cannot perpetuate this lie. Everyone deserves to have a chance to live. That sounds trite and useless but it is true. In our nation recently, many (so many) black men have had that chance taken away. That includes Mike Brown. The police department has tried to smear his name, using dog whistles. I do believe that they want the spotlight off them, and that we as a society and nation cannot let that happen. I think his family, friends, and neighbors have the right to know how and why he was taken from them. The way the police force in Ferguson has treated their residents, the ones they are sworn to protect, is despicable and downright scary: rubber bullets, tear gas, unlawful arrests, tanks, snipers, and more. This is especially true when you consider what they were PEACEFULLY protesting-the killing of a teenager, in the middle of a neighborhood street, by an officer of the law, and the subsequent handling of the case and the young man’s body, lying in the open for hours for all to see. The people of Ferguson are right to protest.
But they should not be the only ones. Here are a few groups people I am surprised not to hear more from:

All that to say, this is absolutely not okay. None of it is okay. I do not condone this. I am one voice, what does it matter? It matters because when we combine our individual voices, we become loud. You cannot ignore that.

stories.

I spent the last hour writing a blog post about Robin Williams’ suicide, complete with numbers on mental illness prevalence and an attempt at representing many viewpoints and voices. But that post is gone. In its place, here are some posts that I have read today and appreciated, for their honesty and truth. Before you go any further though, there are some things I want you to know. 

-It is okay to not be okay.
-There is no shame in asking for help, and it is okay to not know what that looks like.
-Those who care about you would much rather sit with you and listen and love you the way you are now (and maybe sacrifice time or plans in the moment by doing so), than to live without you.
-There is no magic fix; wellness is a process, but it is one worth fighting through, and there are many options available for that.

If you need help, please talk to someone you trust. If you need someone else, please please consider these resources.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Online Crisis Chat: http://www.crisischat.org/

Crisis Text Line: http://www.crisistextline.org/textline/

The following posts could be triggering to you. Please please please do not read them if you are not in a safe place. Navigate away from here, get off the Internet, tell someone how you feel.
Jamie Tworkowski-“There is still some time”
Nish Weiseth-“Thoughts on depression, suicide, and being a Christian”
Megan Tietz-“The dark night is no measure of your soul”

I plan to live out the rest of my life standing in the light of vulnerability and authenticity—-and I will embrace anyone who courageously meets me there.

Rachel Macy Stafford (via allegorys)

(via soulolution)

I love tattooed women, maybe because they are uncontrollable, they are themselves to the point of drawing symbols of their power on their skin. Talk about owning your own body, being in your body, claiming yourself. I love it. When the world is in an uproar over whether women should have a choice or not when it comes to their own bodies, being tattooed is one of the most visible choices of all.

Margaret Cho (via onehundreddollars)

love and take a lot of pride in my tattoo. This is a good articulation of one reason why.

(via kirstenmakestattoos)

Five families in the Netherlands got together to buy this land and hired an architect to build them a shared community house. Read more about it.
If you had the chance to live with 4 other families/couples, who would you want?

Five families in the Netherlands got together to buy this land and hired an architect to build them a shared community house. Read more about it.

If you had the chance to live with 4 other families/couples, who would you want?

Otherwise

Sounds

  • Meet Me at the Edge of the World- Over the Rhine
  • I and Love and You- the Avett Brothers
  • Chasing Someday- Drew Holcomb and the Neighbors
  • Light for the Lost Boy-Andrew Peterson

Glimpses